- July 23rd, 2012
Yup, I'm slacking again, this time it's not because nothing is going on, it's more that everything has been going to hell. So let's catch up...
Beth's wedding was beautiful, of course, how could it not be with my niece being the bride. We went up on Friday, took our time and made a few stops so I could get out and move around. Just Doug, Bre and I went, Josh had to stay home for an important job interview. He was also working at the Pizzaria at the time and was supposed to work that weekend, I'm glad he didn't just miss it because he had to work because the day after we got home he got fired, for not being able to keep up, guess Liverpool Pizzaria has never heard of discrimination, you don't do stuff like that to someone who has a disability, anyway, it's done and things did turn out well. It was awesome to spend the weekend with my sister, her kids and their spouses. Sunday came too soon and it was time to come home, that goodbye was very hard, not just with Linda but with the kids too. I bawled half the way home.
So that's the good that happened in the last 5 weeks and that is the only good that has happened.
The week before Beth and Nick's wedding was pretty hellish. When we went to Lunenburg to see Doug's Dad on his birthday he wasn't doing too well, by the next week we knew we were in the palliative care part of his life. Josh and I stayed down on Tuesday and then went back on Thursday to stay but knowing we wouldn't be there for the night. At 10:55pm on June 14th we said goodbye to the best father in-law and Papa that I've ever known. It was very hard, Doug doesn't deal with death very well but I'm very proud to say he made it through it and did everything he had to do, I had to push at times but he did it.
The following morning, July 15th, the phone rang and Doug got it and the news that Bowaters had closed, on Doug's 25th anniversary working for the company, it was all over. At that point in time it didn't really sink it, it hadn't been 12 hours since he lost his Dad. But after a week or so it sunk in, Doug was unemployed at 48. He started applying for jobs and has been doing it ever since, he's trying to get in with a company in Alberta where he'll work 2 weeks on and 2 off, a lot of the guys from here are doing the same thing. It will be hard if he gets it because I depend on him to do so much around here that I can't do.
Unfortunately there has been no big change with my back, I'm still in pain daily and most days I'm in more pain than I was before I had surgery. So all the pain from surgery was for nothing, I'm past the 5 month mark now and with no improvement I guess it can be considered a failure.
We did get a little good news, Josh got the job at the plant where he had his interview on the Friday we left for Beth's wedding. The job is for his trade, he started last Monday and so far loves it, I guess it's a good bunch of guys that he works with, where he's been named "the kid" because he's the youngest one in the plant. Then last Wed. his nickname got changed to "The crash kid".
Back to the bad news. I got the call from Josh last Wed. at 4:20 that no mother ever wants to get, it came up on the phone as "Josh's cell" and my heart dropped. The first thing he said was, "Mom, I totalled the car." That's when I pretty much got hysterical. Doug is freaking out at this point because he can only hear my end as I begged Josh to tell me he was okay. We got off the phone and took off for Shelburne. I started texting with him soon as we got in the car, he insisted he was okay and didn't need to go to the hospital but when EHS got there they put him on the stretcher and took him to the hospital. We got there just as they were taking him in the other door and I only had to wait for a few minutes to see him. What a relief to walk in the room and see him sitting up. He had some cuts and scrapes from the windshield but that was it, just needed a steri strip to close one of the cuts. Then I wanted to beat on him for scaring me so bad. When we left the hospital we went to where the accident happened and the car was gone, all that was left were the marks on the road and the glass embedded in the tree. Doug and Josh went up the next day to empty out the car and take some pics of it. Luckily we found him another car that night, same make and year as the one he totalled, just a different color and it's an automatic. Now I'll worry every day about him driving till it's not so fresh in my mind. I'm driving him crazy about it, he didn't get hurt, he wasn't even sore, but I really hope it sunk in just how lucky he is. I'll post some pics so you can see what I mean.
Well I should get ready to go to bed, I just turned 43 so I should probably get my beauty sleep. LOL My sleep schedule is so much like a teen, I'm up half the night because I'm in pain but then I don't want to get up in the morning.
So, that's been our last 5 weeks and don't tell me that's our 3 because it comes in 3's, that's just 3 in the last 5 weeks, there's been a lot more since 2012 started, we're ready for this string to be over, it's time for some good news, like Doug getting a job!